Vintage Belts
One of the few items I can reliably thrift are belts. Amidst the skinny mini pleathers, I can find soft leather and heavy duty steel. I typically rely on “men’s” but have been fortunate to find less utilitarian options in “women’s.” Here are a few and how I’d style them.
CLASSIC
ITEMS: Tee – Jungmaven | Jeans – Secondhand
CHAIN
ITEMS: Jacket – 69
CIRCLE
ITEMS: Dress – Two Days Off
Bracelet Stack
I have an on and off relationship with bracelets. Unlike my staple watch, I’ve often become annoyed with how bracelets get in the way when I’m writing or typing. The issue was more due to the type of bracelet I was wearing. Chunky, statement pieces are better for when I’m up and about and my wrists won’t be resting on a flat surface for very long. But thinner, flexible types? Those are just right!
1) Pandora Charm
This was a splurge after I finally secured a full time job. These never interested me before, but I began seeing them on customers in person and decided to look into the popular brand. I love sterling silver and snake chains are really comfortable, but I’m not necessarily into charms. That was until I saw the letters and thought I could spell out my name. The in between spacers are sterling as well from etsy. It matches everything and is such an awesome reminder to remain true to myself.
2) Steel Bangles
These aren’t sterling, but decently made stainless steel.
3) Small Beads
This was from an etsy shop that offers different sizes which I appreciate. It can be a little tricky to put on, but once there it doesn’t feel like I’m wearing anything. Love the shine it provides.
Fall Essentials
Forever my favorite, this Fall brings with it new opportunities in my career and getting the chance to wear nicer items more regularly.
BOXY, ELBOW LENGTH TEES
LOOSE BUTTON UPS & SHACKETS
OVERSIZED BLAZERS
TAPERED JEANS & PANTS
CHUNKY FOOTWEAR
Here’s how I style a few of those pieces!
Loose Jeans
I’ve finally figured out how to style loose jeans after years of overcoming the skinny jean indoctrination of my teens!
BALANCED
I achieve this by wearing a cropped length top and elevated shoes (like platforms.)
ITEMS: Top – Sotela | Shoes – Nordstrom Rack
BOXY
Pairing like with like results in an intentional oversized ‘fit.
ITEMS: Top – Secondhand | Shoes – Secondhand Simon Miller
MATCHY
I love making a statement with a matching set!
ITEMS: Duster – Nordstrom | Shoes – KLAW
Silver Shoe Styling
Every once in awhile a “trend” makes many more options available of something I already loved. Silver has been my favorite metallic for years and it’s an even more ultimate neutral than white. So excited to style these for seasons to come!
LOOK 1
Sandals – nordstrom | Dress – Secondhand & self dyed | Belt – Secondhand
LOOK 2
Tabi Flats – Mary Lo | Tank – Dizzy LA | Pants – Selfmade
LOOK 3
Mary Jane Sneakers – ASICS x Cecile Bahnsen | Blouse & shorts – Secondhand
Bucket Hats
Now that my hair is “condensed” I can wear fun bucket hats with ease!
1 – Hat from The Wrap Life | Robe from Block Shop Textiles
2 – Hat from nordstrom rack | Button up – Secondhand
3 – Hat from The Wrap Life | Top from Two Days Off
Gardening Capsule
I really enjoyed maintaining the plants and making the yard look nice last Summer, but I didn’t really have the most suitable items to wear. Instead of risking getting my nice linen stained, I decided to put together a specific capsule I would need for the season. See each listed below.
OVERALLS
I had such good fortune at a local thrift store finding both of these for under $20!
BLUE TEES
4 were thrifted, 1 I never wore so I moved it from my main closet.
CAMEL TANKS
These were all ones I already had.
YELLOW BUCKET HAT
This is the perfect sunshine color and really soft/comfortable to wear. Bought last year.
CLOGS & BOOTS
The garden clogs were bought last year and the Blundstones I’ve had for years but stopped really wearing because they aren’t the most supportive. They work well if there’s mud though!
Spring Essentials
I have been dreaming of the warm all year long so now that it’s finally here, I’m excited to wear these comfy essentials. Not strictly a capsule, but more of a core vibe I want to showcase this particular season.
WHITE COTTON BLOUSES
LIGHT & MID WASH DENIM
BLACK LINEN
NEUTRAL FLORAL
CREAM TOPPERS
MARY JANES, CLOGS, & SNEAKERS
Here’s how I style a few of those pieces!
Ring Stack
I used to wear rings when I was younger (real gold & costume) but stopped some years back. In the spirit of trying new things this year, I found some wonderful sterling options to match my other favorite jewelry.
Just like with earrings, Etsy is my fav place to look. Here’s where I found these:
Sweater Vest Styling
Finally thrifted a sweater vest! See how I style it 3 ways:
LOOK 1
OTHER ITEMS: Button up – 7115 by Szeki | Leggings – Boody | Sneakers – KLAW
LOOK 2
OTHER ITEMS: Blouse – Eliza Faulkner | Pants – STATE | Boots – Secondhand
LOOK 3
OTHER ITEMS: Dress – 69 | Shoes – Birkenstocks
Matching Gloves/Boots
Each year I find myself in the 6 month stretch of winter here in MI. The snow & cold are unavoidable, so one small way I bring in some brightness is by intentionally matching my gloves to my boots.
I always opt for leather as they are much warmer than the knitted variety, and I recently picked these snow boots up from Poshmark. The silver is neutral, but pops against the darkness of the season.
Another fun duo to match are a hat and scarf. They could be from the same set, or a similar color/print.
Basically your goal is to cut down on decisions if you have to rush out to shovel or bundle up during a storm. Ease in dressing for the cold may not be as simple as the heat, but it is doable and can be enjoyable too!
Vintage Levis
Light wash vintage Levi’s have been a forever wishlist item for me.
I’ve been fortunate the last few thrift trips finding a mid wash pair and mid-dark acid pair. Too long of course, so I cut a raw hem on one and cuff the other. Since I only look for “men’s” styles now (vintage “women’s” are all made for pear shapes and caused literal pain when I tried to wear them in the past) it’s hard for me to find ones that are actually high enough in the front.
I was so pumped to see these with my measurements on poshmark.
The price! ($27)
The color!
The rise!
The BOOTY!
Here’s how I modified these vintage Levi’s to really make them mine.
BEFORE
REMOVED EXTRA LENGTH
As is often the case, these jeans were far too long so I started by cutting off several inches. I made sure to leave an extra inch to allocate for the hem I would be sewing later.
TAPERED THE LOWER LEG
Due to my leg shape and narrow hip-span, straight legs often look like wide legs on me and give a “trunk” effect. I decided to taper these and keep the original inner side seam. This tutorial was quite helpful.
DISTRESSED THE HEM
Though I typically like to keep the original hem on jeans, the taper I did made that a bit harder to do this time. I made the hem portion smaller to fit, but that removed one of the side seams, so I realized it would look odd attached to the jeans. I also noticed a stain on one of the hem portions that didn’t wash out, so I just decided to sew a new hem. Once that was complete, I took my electric nail file to help add some distressing and make them look more worn in.
And now I have a great fitting pair of levi’s to style with many outfits!
AFTER
Fall Forward
We’re back to my favorite season! A change from the past few years is I’m out and about more (required unfortunately.) But the positive means I get to have fun with dressing again!
In previous posts I separated my wish list from my styling post but I thought I’d combine them this go around. I kept a running list all year and was able to find some things over the Spring & Summer instead of waiting until Fall began. Here’s what I added to my wardrobe this season and some thoughts on why as well.
WISHLIST ITEMS
Camel Pocket Bag Blazer (69) $350
I got this in black last year and LOVE it, especially for travel. The giant pockets hold entire worlds, the denim is great for multiple seasons, and the cut is very wide and comfortable. I wanted to get this additional color for a lighter neutral option which I know will mix and match with so much.
Red Hoodie (Everybody.World) $120
I realized one rainy Summer day I didn’t have a hooded sweatshirt anymore. This is mainly because I don’t really consider them my style and once old ones no longer fit I got rid of them and didn’t replace them. The closest I have is a lounge robe made of stretchy jersey cotton. Well I saw this bright red beauty from a new-to-me brand and added it to the list. 100% cotton, a boxy fit with room in the chest, and my fav color? This will surely last me some years.
Oversized White button ups (Nordstrom) $50 & $46
Found both of these in the anniversary sale. I was looking to replace one I thrifted awhile back that is more fitted and is made of a brushed cotton/flannel fabric. It also only has 1 chest pocket which I have never liked the look of. One of these has no pockets, and the other has two, which are both my preferenceover just one.
Loose Jeans (Re/Done via Nordstrom Rack) $50
These fit amazingly well in my waist, tummy, and legs and I’m still surprised by it. They were also an incredible deal at over 80% off retail at Nordstrom Rack.
Cream Loafers (Alohas) $123, on sale
I’ve wanted some loafers for some years now, but not in the standard black. Looked a bit for a chunky style in this lighter hue and found these. I’ve heard positive reviews about the brand being comfortable, which is a must for any shoes I buy now.
Abstract Shape Tote (Primecut Bags) $348
Fell in love with this as soon as they released it over the summer. I’d been on the lookout for a new work bag and this one is the perfect combo of fun & me.
STILL SAVING FOR
Striped Sweater $236
Check back later to see how I’m styling them!
Pops of Yellow
So you all know red has been my fav color for years now. I still very much love red, but actually see it as more of a “neutral” in my wardrobe and have been wanting to have another accent color to play with.
Enter bright yellow!
There’s something undeniably happy about this sunshine hue and I love how it looks with not only red, but black, white, and my other main colors: camel & light denim.
So far I have some yellow accessories and I finally found a bright gel polish after YEARS of searching.
Here’s how I’m adding yellow into my fall wardrobe.
MI Fashion Week
MI FASHION WEEK
After wanting to go to this event for years, I finally was able to attend for a short time. Brought the baby cam to capture any fun looks for Sheek but I was blown away by the amount of photographers that were there. Some were hired, others were shooting for their blogs like I was.
It was rejuvenating to be around creative folks, and I was reminded again of my passion I haven’t been able to do while working remotely. Design pays the bills, but doesn’t feel as fulfilling to my soul as photography.
Here are some of my fav looks below!
Sights from Summer
No crushed coils here, only sun protection and a fun print that matches my wardrobe!
Baby’s first pair of (bought) skates!
Nothing shows the tan off better than neon.
Summer essentials.
Been wearing these squishy slides as house shoes all season, the comfort can’t be beat!
Silver Jewelry
Originally made this post in March 2021, but since then things have changed! I’m still rocking silver, just leaning into a few sterling favorites for day-to-day wear. Some are coated brass, but they have that same warm tone sterling has so they go really well together.
NECKLACES
1st chain – Lady Grey | 2nd Chain – local art fair | 3rd chain – Wolf Circus Jewelry | Power Fist & Africa pendants from Solid Treasures | Eye pendant from Etsy
Love the look of stacking necklaces now!
EARRINGS
Stacks from Etsy | small cuff from Wolf Circus Jewelry | Large triple abstract circles & circle/oval ones from local vintage shop |
Triple cuffs from Lady Grey | Afro picks & Africa outline from Amazulu
Of all the items pictured above, these are my most favorite pieces that I reach for again and again.
I don’t wear rings or bracelets, but do enjoy a nice anklet in the Summer. These are the latest additions (from Jenny Bird) which look great layered together on one or on each ankle separately. They have a great shine and really pop on the tan!
Transitional Tips
Summer is probably my least favorite season in terms of style whereas Fall is my forever champion. When it’s very hot, I wear as little as I possibly can at home. If in a work setting, I focus on loose silhouettes and lightweight fabrics. Once it cools down, I am ecstatic to start layering again.
September is still quite warm now (thanks climate emergency) but I am able to add in more Fall elements as the season progresses. Here are some ways I transition from minimal looks to maximalist creations.
JEWELRY
As I mentioned earlier, I wear as little as possible when it’s hot. Though I have been rocking minimal silver studs and my Africa pendant, those are it. Recently picked up this chunkier chain which I think will look great with button ups and turtlenecks later in the season.
Watches have actually been one of my favorite accessories for years (and useful too) so now is a great time I like to start wearing them again.
SOCKS
One of my favorite style elements of a look is to see an unexpected pop of color or pattern from socks. They’re not only functional to help stave off the chill, they’re fun too. I think they’re cute with derbys and mary janes in Spring, but in Fall I go for more practical sneakers or boots.
DUSTERS
Love when a piece is versatile and can be worn multiple ways. I like to keep on wearing lightweight summer dresses open as dusters once things cool down.
Outdoor Capsule
Now that Summer has arrived I’m excited to spend a lot more time out in the sunshine! Though I’d place myself more in the “overdressed” category, I knew it’d be useful to have more casual items that could handle the dirt and wet of Summer. Whether going for a long walk, bike ride, or up north, I think these items will serve me well for many years to come.
For daytime clothes, I’m sticking to a simple tank + shorts formula. The muscle tank silhouette protects my décolletage and upper back from the sun while the open arms allow for airflow.
For nightime and cooler weather (and to protect against bugs,) I’ve included tennis shoes, long pants, and a thin topper.
Next I have accessories I’ll need like walking sandals, sunglasses, a sunhat, and fanny pack.
A bathing suit for water time.
Then I have essential toiletries. Lip balm, tinted sunscreen for my face, regular mineral sunscreen for my body, hand sanitizer, and natural bug spray.
Last but not least is nutrition. Water, snacks, and my vitamins in a portable case which all fit in the fanny pack.
Room Tour
Here are some views of my office/style room! There are still a few things I’d like to adjust (more photography prints, a hook for my camera, and decide what to put in that chevron basket haha.) The rack will change seasonally and/or when I want to try a different theme. Otherwise, most everything is set. Hope you’re inspired!
ITEMS:
Copper rack – Etsy
Copper hangars – At Home
White wall shelves, frames, small cabinets – Ikea
Chair – Wayfair
Bamboo floor protector mat – Office Depot
Grey cart, desk, lamp – Target
Rose gold drum table – Goodwill
Mirror, rug – hand-me-downs from mom
12 in 21
As the years have progressed, I’ve been steadily tracking my spending on clothing. Though I’d say the overall volume has decreased since my fast fashion/thriftaholic days, the cost has risen because slow fashion is much more expensive. I would like to work on lowering both the amount of apparel I buy as well as how much I spend on it.
Amelia (@ameliaswardrobeedit) proposed the idea of limiting ourselves to just 12 items–1 item per month–for this new year. I’m going to try my very best to stick with this because I honestly have more than enough clothes and so many are really comfy, well made favorites.
#12in21
Some guidelines for myself:
At least half (6) of the items will be from BIPOC owned brands.
*I originally was counting shoes in the 12, but decided to separate them into their own list.
Accessories, underwear/lounge, secondhand, replacements, and self made items won’t count.
Each month I will update this post with the item I went with and details about it.
Clothing purchased so far: 12
Vestige Story kindred sweatshirt (BIPOC owned)
7115 by Szeki black sumo puffer (BIPOC owned)
Tradlands augusta floral dress
Aliya Wanek britt dress (BIPOC owned)
Ichi Antiquités linen gather dress (BIPOC owned)
Sotela gingham top, shorts, & skirt (BIPOC owned)
Eli & Barry grid dress
Nettle Studio smiley button up
Image from nettlestudio.com
STATE punch shirt (on sale)
Intentionally Blank canta dress
Image from intentionallyblank.us
Vacilando Studios red quilt jacket
Image from @vacilandostudios
Ijji Trench (BIPOC owned)
Shoes purchased so far: 6
Camper Pix boots (on sale)
Bryr black norma stack sandal
Beatrice Valenzuela lichen sandalias (BIPOC owned)
Zou Xou quinta woven slide (BIPOC owned)
THEY sneakers (BIPOC owned)
Image from theynewyork.com
Make list
Here are some sewing projects I’m planning to make:
-Face print midi dress (made!)
-Red canvas sun hat (made!)
-Floral print boxy top
-Red canvas clyde trousers
Winter Style
This will be a Winter of practicality because I’ll only be going out for necessities like groceries and the like. But that doesn’t mean I can’t have fun with layers! My base look remains consistent throughout winter; varying turtlenecks and jeans.
New color palette to try:
Primary: Red + Yellow + Blue
Outfit formulas-
Faces coat + white boots
White puffer coat + blue beanie + yellow scarf + rorange gloves + white boots
Camel coat + camel & abstract shape scarf + rorange beanie + cream gloves + black boots
Rorange coat + cream beanie + black gloves + black boots
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Winter Wishlist
This season I had a handful of replacement coats in mind (larger sizes.) Glad to have started selling items on poshmark to help fund clothing purchases.
-Faces coat (secondhand)
-Camel wool coat (replacement)
-Rorange wool coat (replacement)
-Winter puffy coat (replacement)
-White & black boots (replacement)
-Cream wool beanie (BIPOC owned)
-Flame shelter cardigan
-Red potter jacket
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Support Indigenous
I’ve written about supporting BIPOC before. This time I want to be more specific and lift up Native + Indigenous + First Nations + Metis + Inuit communities.
I typically focus on my own Black experience, but I must recognize that I have not done more to support my Native siblings. Black death and pain have been sensationalized in this country, but Native suffering has been pushed under the rug. I cannot grow complacent in their pain.
Native folks have to endure erasure by their countries’ colonizers yet at the same time exotification & appropriation. Despite European diseases and horrendous genocide, many have perserveared. I am forever awed by their resilience and continuation of so many different tribes’ traditions.
I ask that instead of participating in this fake holiday, do some real good and follow these suggestions below.
RECOGNIZE WHOSE LAND YOU OCCUPY
The website Native-Land.ca can show which tribe(s) land you live on. My favorite part is once you find out results, you can click on the tribe(s) website and learn more about their communities. A lot of knowledge can be gained here, much of which was not included in our typical eurocentric history classes.
The site has a disclaimer that it isn’t as detailed as it could be, but is growing due to contributions from the community.
SEEK OUT LOCAL INDIVIDUAL & COMMUNITY FUNDS
If you have funds to spare, try and find a local community to support. Or if you happen to see specific people in need, give via venmo/paypal/cashapp.
FOLLOW INDIGENOUS CREATORS
If funds are short, an easy & free way to help is to follow Indigenous artists, educators, and activists. Sharing their knowledge allows more people to understand and helps combat the unjust erasure.
BUY FROM INDIGENOUS DESIGNERS
A quick google search will show lists with some popular Native brands. I recommend digging even further. See what the creators you’ve followed are sharing. Check what’s on your wishlist and see if you can find it from a Native brand.
Always make sure that the brand is Indigenous owned. There are too many white owned brands that sell “Native inspired” items and in no way help the people they capitalize off of. DO NOT SUPPORT THOSE BRANDS!
Remember, much like my own African diaspora, Indigenous folks are not a monolith. There are many different tribes and communities all over the world with unique traditions and perspectives. Learning about those differences and respecting them is one way to honor those who participate in them.
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Hair Changes
These past ten years of being natural have been a learning experience. Not only in how to do my hair, but what my hair means to me. As I grow older, I’ve made deliberate choices about it that challenge societal notions of “beauty” for cis women. Here are a few of those changes listed below.
COLOR
For the longest, I had colors in the red family. Dark auburn, ginger, cinnamon, then eventually an ombre blonde on the ends. Loved that color for it really matched my freckles and somehow looked more “natural” on me than my black hair.
I still feel like my natural hair color washes me out. My face is about 4 shades paler than the rest of my body and that difference has always been something I disliked. Black hair seemed to draw attention to that, but I’m contemplating just accepting it to stop with the bleach damage. Hopefully my freckles will darken with time like my mom’s have.
For the past year or so, I’ve been trying to get silver hair. I’ve wanted it since 2015, but was worried that the amount of bleaching to get there would be too damaging (basically something I’ve realized lately.) It’s such a great neutral color and I can’t get over how amazing it looks with my favorite red. So many women have been pressured to hide all signs of aging and have covered their natural greys with dye. It’s great to see more embracing the grey (like my mom and Mate’s mom!) I’ve had some white hairs mixed in since childhood but I can’t wait till they take over!
To try and lay off the bleach, I’ve found a new product. It’s a temporary silver hair wax that has amazing results on all types of natural hair. So I’m thinking I can just add that in each week when I style, and focus on building back my hair’s health.
LENGTH
I cut my hair recently which would make this big chop number 4. There was some damage and I also wanted to try a tapered shape. I used to have a goal of “long” hair like many naturalistas but I’ve switched my goal to be “big hair” with an emphasis on healthy coils. The cut means it’ll take more time to achieve, but the ease of short hair is undeniable!
Unfortunately, countless women have been told to never cut their hair, it makes them beautiful, it’s their “glory” etc etc. I never thought this dead protein on my head should be exalted as such, I see it as another way to express myself. But damaged, stringy ends were not an asset to my coiled coif, so a cut was in order.
STYLE
When I first went natural, I tried all the hairstyles. Twists, roller sets, protective styles, you name it! (You can still watch the tutorials on my Youtube.) I never had a weave and only wore wigs for cosplay, but that opens up even more possibilities for people who enjoy them!
I love natural hair, the variety we can achieve, reclaiming a part of ourselves that was hated due to white supremacy. And though there’s been a lot more acceptance of natural hair in the past decade, there are still issues of appropriation from white people, Black individuals being reprimanded at school & work, and an overall lack of representation of kinkier styles being considered just as “beautiful” as loose curly ones.
Of all the styles I’ve tried, the fro is my ultimate favorite. No matter the color, no matter the length, this is the style for me. I especially enjoy trimming and playing with different shapes. My fro also helps me feel closer to my parents who had them in the 70s. One day I just want a big ass fro that can help me knock injustice out!
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Brand Ideas
There are different perspectives regarding how people deal with companies online. Some individuals only visit their favorite brand’s websites and buy products there with the occasional email notification. Others follow on social media and engage with whoever runs the brand’s page. And then there are those that work with brands on producing content to help market their products to future customers.
I began as the first type of person but have now morphed into a combo of the second and third type. I’m not an influencer, but I do create content for Sheek as a portfolio to show my ability to style, photograph, and share my looks. I do choose to tag certain brands and there are a few reasons for that.
- I tag BIPOC brands because they have so many more challenges than white owned brands and this can help them grow their audience. The larger their audience, the better their business will be and the chance to fund endeavours like size expansion are much more feasible.
- I tag some white woman owned brands because I have found many great quality and well fitting pieces from them. Several are leading the way in size inclusivity in this slow fashion space as well which is much appreciated.
- I find it helpful when I’m looking at a new brand to see items on different body types & skintones. There are only so many models per collection, so seeing fit notes and reviews from the community can really help me make an informed decision. I hope that when I show up in their tagged section, I can help others contemplating a purchase as well.
- It saves me from having to answer “where is that _____ from?” I’d much rather spend time commenting on the pros and cons of a more expensive item that a person may be considering.
I don’t begrudge people who choose not to tag any brands at all. Aja and Dr. Kiona shared the truth about how people of color aren’t seen as “valuable” by brands and not offered fair compensation for their work and free publicity if a brand is tagged for their large following to see.
I also don’t trust when an influencer posts about something they were #gifted. Seeing only positive views and the phrase “I’m seriously considering purchasing another color because this is THAT GOOD.”
Please. Spare me the fluff.
I’ve seen those same items for sale a couple months later with no explanation about changing their mind so I’d rather put my trust in people like myself. People who buy their own items and don’t have a PR relationship to protect so they can be completely honest.
Though I still tag brands for the reasons above, I don’t tag everyone. I don’t tag fast fashion or unethical brands because I don’t want to promote them. And who knows, perhaps I’ll stop tagging completely one day. But for the time being, I hope that I am able to show some representation of the item on a mid-size, medium skintone, petite body.
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Black Bags
I’ve loved the classic look of black leather bags for so many years now. I thought it’d be fun to show the various ones I have with a description of how I use each.
Medium Camera Bag
This was a hand-me-down from my dad and has held up so well over the years. I’d use this for a shoot that needs a bit more gear (like flash or another lens.)
Laptop Bag
This was a secondhand find from a local consignment store. It is the perfect size for if I needed to bring my MacBook pro anywhere and could fit my small portfolio book and resumes.
Camera Purse
This was one of my first intentional, ethical purchases years ago from Ona. It is my go to for headshot/portrait sessions when I only need my camera and 2 lenses.
Mini Circle Purse
The smallest of the bunch, this was my last purchase from Fossil when I worked there many years ago. When I only need a few items, I use this.
Halfmoon Bag
My most recent buy from the wonderful Tree Fairfax. This would be great for hands free activities like the farmer’s market or travel and can fit a nice amount in it as long as the items are flatter.
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Fall Style
Every year when August rolls around, I inevitably swoon for the thought of cooler days and layers. The thoughts are premature of course, for it remains pretty hot through September so Fall styling must always wait. But once that briskness arrives? I go all in!
New color palette to try:
Cream + Rorange + Camel + Black
Outfit formulas-
Tee + jeans + fun socks + derbys
Boxy black top + black pants + red socks & black boots OR red boots
Boxy black top + camel pants + cream mules or boots
Cream/black quilted jacket + cream tee + camel pants + red socks + black chelseas
Dark denim jacket + striped tee + camel pants + black boots
Camel jacket + cream tee + washed black jeans + red boots or rorange mary janes
Red denim jacket + cream tee + dark jeans + black with red boots
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Fall Wishlist
This is my favorite season so in the past I have gone a bit overboard. I am glad though that as each season passes, I become even better at resisting impulses and sticking to my wishlist. This time I had a few new items in mind along with replacements.
-Red Socks from Pansy
-Cream Sweatshirt from Aliya Wanek
-Camel Pants from Kordal Studio (replacement)
-Raw Jeans from Detroit Denim (replacement)
-All black Red Wing boots
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Work Bag
I’ve been partial to vintage Coach bags for years now, and have been able to find them secondhand in stores and online. This most recent find is something I had on my poshmark wishlist for about a year before buying. Since it was in new condition, the seller had it listed at its full price so I knew it would be quite a big purchase. It is so well made, my favorite color, and I know it will last for many many years.
Here’s a peek of what’s inside:
-ipad pro
-Charger/cords
-Business cards
-Small notebook & pen
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Low Buy
This has been a time hasn’t it? Corona has caused a great deal of suffering and also impacted many of us financially. I know I’m not the only one who was laid off as a result of it, so I hope if you’re reading this it lets you know you’re not alone.
Due to having a limited income (but still having bills to pay) I’ve entered a low buy out of necessity. I’ve tried no buys before, but always failed while obsessing over items I would buy again once it ended. In a low buy, I do still have some funds for fun items, but those items aren’t necessarily apparel. For example, I bought some oil painting supplies because I have more time and painting has always been very therapeutic for me.
Overall I’ve done pretty well with curbing impulse buys. Exceptions to this were the STATE & Dazey LA summer releases back in May (but I was able to use Afterpay for both.) And some jeans that were on sale. Otherwise, everything else clothing-wise has been on my wishlist.
I have bought more hair/skin care though. Some regular products, but others to use with my now silver hair. I’ve thankfully not been a product hoarder for years, but I do like to have backups of my favorites to ensure ease of styling.
Here are some priorities I focus on during a low buy:
1) Savings
My number one goal is to increase savings. I’ve been in very low places before when I didn’t have adequate savings built up and something unexpected happened. I don’t want to be in predicaments like that again if I can help it by saving now.
2) Business
This covers gear, marketing materials, prints, etc. Freelance work is another source of income, albeit inconsistent. Reallocating funds to grow my business is something that will help me in the future.
3) Contentment
Honestly, I have so much. I am thankful I have the privilege to pay more and support small brands, especially fellow BIPOC ones. Taking a look at my overabundant wardrobe helps me really decide if I should be purchasing another clothing item, or if I can put it on my wishlist and use those funds for more important matters.
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Midi Dresses
Though the majority of the time I prefer pants, and shorts when it’s really hot, I’ve grown to enjoy the versatility of dresses. I focus on these specifics:
-Midi length
-Boxy, flowy cut
-Made of natural materials
This combination has become integral to my warm weather style. With the addition of leggings and long sleeves, I can make them work for winter as well. I can see midi dresses being a part of my signature style for years to come.
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Silver Hair
I finally achieved silver hair!
I had attempted this before in December of last year then again in January of this year. Only the ends of my hair were light enough for the silver to take. Over the past several months, I’ve been bleaching (and consequently trimming/applying protein treatments) to get my hair to a light enough yellow.
I actually was going to stick with blonde for awhile, but this last time I bleached the roots and decided to try silver again.
After lightening, there was still quite a bit of brassiness so I applied the Fanola no yellow shampoo and left it on for a bit. The ends took as usual but the upper area was still stubbornly honey colored. I had some left over Manic Panic “alien grey” from before so I put that on the still brassy roots.
I rinsed and it helped a lot. The next day, there were still a few blonde places, so I put the Fanola no yellow conditioner on with a plastic cap for a few hours. That helped blend some more, though it left a lilac cast.
Next wash, I shampooed to get the excess purple out and dried it to apply one more batch of “alien grey” on any remaining patchiness. After rinsing again, I was so pleased with the results.
Lastly, I ordered the Overtone silver conditioner line to maintain. Having all three shades will allow me to mix and distribute differently on particular places on my hair.
All-in-all, I’m glad I was able to make this color possible. It’s fun yet still a neutral hue that matches with all my outfits. And I can refresh it with color depositing conditioner, so no more risk of damage on these weary ends!
Keeping these in mind helped me through the process:
1) Patience
2) Multiple Bleaching Sessions
3) Not afraid of trimming/cutting damaged ends
4) Protein Treatments + Deep Conditioning
5) Purple/Silver Toning Products
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Summer Style
Not sure how long the distancing will last, so I’m still keeping comfort at the top of my priorities. Thankfully, once summer hits I LIVE in sandals, my most favorite type of shoes. I gave up the cheap, flat ones from my youth and have been investing in really comfortable, supportive ones from various brands over the past few years.
Going to add in softer earth tones to my usual palette to mix things up. Plan to utilize various headwraps for protective styling as well as have fun with all of my statement necklaces as they really jazz up simple looks.
Main pieces include:
Supportive sandals, light denim shorts, Arq tanks, boxy linen tops, maxi skirts, flowy pants, and midi dresses.
Outfit formulas-
Fitted tank + maxi skirt + sandals
Fitted tank + shorts + sandals
Fitted tank + flowy pants + sandals
Boxy top + light jeans + sandals
Boxy top + flowy pants + sandals
Boxy top + shorts + sandals
Midi dress + sandals
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Summer Wishlist
Summer is the shortest season here, so I don’t usually have a lot on my list for it when it rolls around. The main things this time were:
– White sandals (secondhand)
– Negroni Beatrice Valenzuela sandalias (since I enjoy the maasai ones I have so much)
– Chaco sandals for outdoor/active use
– Nettle’s Tale supportive bathing suit top
– Striped bathing suit bottoms
– Patterned/not plain comfortable pants
– Cream midi skirt
Keeping an eye out for fun releases as well, and probably will add in another piece or two as the season rolls on.
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Finding Inspiration
Every now and again, I find myself in a style rut. It seems surprising that one of my favorite activities (personal style) would be subject to boredom. But it happens, especially when I’m getting sick of the current season (typically due to the long winters, but right now it’d definitely due to the COVID-19 pandemic.) Thankfully, I’ve found ways to find inspiration during down times like this.
Reorganize your favorite pieces
Sometimes you can just remember what you love to wear, other times tracking the exact wear count of items helps. Whichever method, decide what your favorite items for the current season are and lay them out.
Seek out looks that feature those items
My favorite source of inspiration is Pinterest but you could look on Instagram as well. The point of looking for outside inspiration is to challenge your creativity with the pieces you already have. You could make boards for certain seasons or categories. I used to have just one main style board that I always went back to when I felt uninspired, but I recently made one specifically for Spring.
Browse through stylish people’s posts
Take some time to look through your favorite people’s outfits. Even if they live in a different climate or have a different lifestyle, chances are you’ll like a way they put something together and can translate it to your own wardrobe.
Play & Plan
With those favorite items for the current season, try on different combinations and take note of which looks make you feel good. Once you find a few, that may help you get through the slump without necessarily feeling the need to shop for more.
Look ahead
If you’re in the transitional time between seasons, now would be a good time to think about what’s coming up. Take an inventory of your closet to see if anything needs to be mended or purged if they no longer fit comfortably. Follow the above 3 steps, but this time I’d suggest you make a moodboard for the next season as well. This can help you create an overall feel for what you’d like to wear soon.
If you find that you’re missing a few items or need to replace some of those purged items, make a wishlist. You don’t have to have specific brands in mind, but I do suggest being as specific as possible on details of the item so that when you do go shopping you won’t settle. Try to compare items from different places before buying. Read reviews and look for recommendations in the community. This may save you time & money down the road by avoiding lower quality or ill-fitting items you won’t enjoy wearing.
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Spring Style
I’ve had major success with simplifying my fall/winter style over the last few years, so I want to bring that over to spring as well.
We don’t have real spring in MI anymore, I’m sure the climate crisis has affected where you live these past 20 years as well. Amidst the slushy wet days there are a few nice ones sprinkled in however. So though I’ll still have to wear a coat or jacket most days, I may be able to wear a lighter under layer.
Excited to finally trade my turtlenecks for tees. I’m going to stay within my palette (black, white/cream, red, with stripes & polka dots for fun.) Went through my tees and found quite a bit to purge (too small now) so I set note on my wishlist to eventually replace those.
I’ve grown to really appreciate the idea of uniform dressing, at least in terms of basics that I can mix and match. Here are some specific outfit formulas I plan to try out.
Polka dot top + light jeans + red glove shoes
Stripe tee + light jeans + rorange mary janes
Graphic tee + light jeans + white derbys
Flowy white top + red flowy pants + black babos
Flowy black top + red flowy pants + white glove shoes
Fitted tee + cream wrap pants + glove shoes
Fitted tee + black balloon pants + glove shoes
Midi dress + glove shoes
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Spring Wishlist
Fortunately I’ve been able to find a majority of what was on my list over the winter (many on sale and/or secondhand.) Some items have been on my list for a year, others for a couple months. I do seek out all season cotton items year round, it just so happens I’ve had good fortune finding those specific items this year. Here’s what I’ve found so far:
-ES cream cotton canvas clyde jumpsuit (sale)
-STATE cream cotton canvas wrap pants
-Boxy white linen top (secondhand)
-3134u Red cotton dress (sale)
-Red linen pants (secondhand)
-Martiniano red glove flats (sale)
-Red denim duster jacket (secondhand)
-Black loose denim pants
I’m really set with many mix & match pieces. I’m going to keep an eye out for some of the Spring releases happening soon, but I feel better about impulse shopping because I have finally found really comfortable items that I’ve really enjoyed wearing as the weather warms up.
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Support BIPOC
Now that we’re in the middle of Black History month, I thought I’d add in a reminder about the importance of supporting Black, Indigenous, and People of Color. Support should not only be limited to our designated “months” but sought out year round to help build up our communities.
Unfortunately, I know that depending on where you live, there may not be local POC places to shop, or brands you admire might not carry your size or be in your price range. I recognize that not everyone can support BIPOC as easily as others, but there are different ways you may be able to help.
Donate to a worthy BIPOC cause
If you have some funds to spare, there are many non-profit organizations that would be very appreciative of your donation. Choose one that resonates with you and share with loved ones, or you could pick a different cause each month.
Eat from a local BIPOC owned restaurant
This would be easiest in big cities, but might also be achievable in suburban areas. (Though it is usually difficult to find POC owned retail stores in small towns.) Turn down the corporate choices and instead choose an ethnic dish (most likely) prepared by chefs who really know how to make it delicious.
Choose BIPOC Doctors/Specialists
I’ve been so happy with my family doctor over all these years, that through multiple insurance changes he’s still the one I choose. Finding a doctor who actually cares about their patients shouldn’t be as difficult as it is, but once you do, stick with them. If you’re in the market to change doctors, try asking around in the community or looking for recommendations online and take note of the ones of color instead of automatically settling on a white practitioner.
Seek out BIPOC creatives
Whether you need a photographer, performer, designer, etc, try and find someone who may not have as much business or as many opportunities as their white counterparts.
Shop in store or online BIPOC brands
In my experience, the easiest way to find a black owned brand is through hair/skin care and accessories. These items are on the lower end of the pricing scale so they wouldn’t be as expensive as some of the clothing and shoe choices. Plus, there aren’t sizes to worry about, so they’re more inclusive as a result.
Learn from BIPOC
Take a class, read articles, buy some books, there are many ways to support POC educators. The field of academia has been dominated by white voices for far too long. Open up your perspective by giving the mic to those in the marginalized community and you will surely learn.
Follow & Share BIPOC accounts
The algorithm preferring thin, white faces is no myth. By intentionally following POC on social media and sharing their content, you are helping them grow in a way that was made more difficult by the tech people behind the app.
Be an ally to BIPOC
Without saying you are one! You are an ally to POC by your actions, not by putting that label in your bio. Stand up for your friends who deal with mistreatment and discrimination on a daily basis. Offer to help them, invite them to activities where they may not feel welcome (but would really enjoy doing,) check on them if they said they were having a rough time at work, send them genuine encouragement. Do all of this because you actually care about them and have a desire to use your privilege to challenge the system. Don’t let white guilt be the only reason to help black & brown people.
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Bigger Sizes
It’s ok to buy a bigger size.
Let me repeat that.
It’s ok to buy a bigger size.
So many of us have had it drilled into our heads since youth the notion that small/thin/skinny is “better.” I’ll just jump in and be another voice that assures THAT IS NOT THE CASE. In life, our body changes, it grows & morphs, it may shrink & sag or plump up.
All of these changes are normal.
Sometimes we may have weight fluctuations due to hormonal changes, digestive issues, and/or stress, at least I know those are all the case for me. Due to that, I’ve recently picked up some bigger sizes of my favorite pants to wear.
I know minimalists go around saying if it can’t fit, purge it to make room for something that does (or just purge it for the sake of owning less.) While I agree on donating/selling items you don’t like or wear, fit is a bit more complicated. If you have a favorite pair of pants–that took a long time to find initially–that aren’t fitting comfortably right now, I say buy the bigger size! Now if you still love everything about the smaller size, don’t purge it immediately.
I’m not suggesting someone hold onto something that doesn’t fit and that makes them feel terrible about themselves. I’m saying to hold onto the extra size in case your weight does fluctuate back down so then you won’t have to keep going out to buy those same items because you already have them, which will save you money down the road.
My examples are shown in the images. Core pants for me are light wash jeans and black & cream trousers. The jeans are the exact same style of levis, just in a bigger size and they fit great. The trousers are everlane, and I haven’t wanted to support them as a company for a bit, so I tried out some Only Child pants instead. They are also comfy, but very thin and more suitable for warm weather, so my search continues for black & cream trousers in a thick cotton and/or denim material while I’m in this size range.
To recap, if you have found an awesome item but it doesn’t fit quite right anymore, don’t feel guilty about buying a bigger size. Don’t feel guilty about holding onto it for a few months if you want to. Don’t feel guilty if you decide to part with it and the bigger size does wind up working after all.
I can’t make you love changing sizes, but I hope to normalize that part of life by sharing that I have accepted it and refuse to feel guilty because it.
Until next time, stay Sheek!
-Shekinah
Setting Intentions
The start of the new year is always a good time to sit back and evaluate goals for the year. While I’ve stopped setting the cliche “lose weight” resolution many years ago, I do still pick intentions in other areas of my life. The majority are savings related, but my personal style is an area that I spend a great deal of time (and money) on as well. I’ve been tracking my spending on clothing specifically for the last couple years and have notices a steady increase. Though I am able to afford more expensive slow made items now, I don’t want to consume in excess like I used to do with fast fashion.
There are many in the community who have chosen to be transparent about money & slow fashion and I really appreciate that. I’ve always had an issue with envying others, so when I first delved into following slow fashion, I was jealous of how influencers were sent high cost items and bought pricier things on a weekly basis. But thanks to being grateful for what I have, others being open to talk about what big influencers ignore (i.e. money & budgeting,) and knowing that just by choosing to post what I enjoy, positive feelings prevail.
I haven’t picked a specific number of items or a total amount to spend, but I have made a plan. Items I put on my wishlist will have a longer wait time before buying. During that wait time, I will really consider if the item would fill a hole in my closet. Then I will plan as many ways as I possibly can to style it. After I have done those steps, and the item still looks like it’d be a nice addition, I will purchase. I have collected a few favorites over last year especially, so anything I add in should become a favorite as well and not wind up in the “regret” section.
If you find yourself in a similar position with style goals but are tempted to buy, here are some recommendations:
Focus on inspiration
Whether it be Pinterest or Instagram, try searching for looks comprised of your favorite items. You may find a new way to style them!
Try a style challenge
These are so much fun. I love the encouragement everyone shares with one another and it really helps you be creative with what you already have.
Choose a specific something to save on
It could be a vacation or a new tech item or whatever you decide you’d like in the future. I find this is very helpful in dissuading me from spending money on clothes.
Talk about it
Maybe with your partner, a close friend, or someone you trust in the community. Sometimes it just helps to have someone listen and understand.
Until next time, stay Sheek!